Letting go of a person you love can be the hardest choice you’ll ever have to make. When you love someone so much, moving on can feel like you are somehow betraying them – like you are breaking an unspoken promise, even if it is clear as day that things can never work out, or even if they are the ones who walked out on you.
A break up can feel unsurvivable, especially if that person added so much to your life and was involved in so many aspects of it. Breakups can be mentally destructive, and the fact that you are reading this article about how to get over an ex that you still love means that you will not let yourself spiral into that hole.
Fight For the Person You Love
You might think that fighting for the one you love is crazy, considering that you are trying to find a way to get over them. You are here because you know that things are not working out for you, but with that in mind, give it all you’ve got and fight for them, with regard for your pride, of course. If things work out, that’s awesome. If they don’t, then you can resume trying to get over them with a clear conscience. You are now free of all potential regrets, knowing that you gave your relationship your all and that there wasn’t anything else that you could have possibly done.
Accept the Fact That They Are Gone
One of the very first stages of grief is denial; the lack of acceptance that this situation is actually happening. This stage can be tough to get by, especially when it’s someone you love and never thought you’d have to lose. However, it needs to be done because if you never accept that they are gone, you can never move on. You will often find it hard to face the fact that that person is simply not there anymore.
You might find yourself trying to fight the urge to call that person and tell them about your day or share something with them that you thought they might like. When you fight off that urge, you might find yourself dismissing the whole situation altogether, just to avoid thinking about the fact that they are gone. You need to come to terms with them not being there anymore, and as much as it hurts, you have to accept that they will move on sooner or later. You have to remind yourself that you will be okay without them always.
If It Is Meant to Be, It Will Be
The best way to keep yourself intact throughout this recovery process is to truly believe that if you are meant to be with that person, you will be with them. No matter how many years you spend apart and how many people you meet and come in contact with, you will find your way back to each other one day. It is inevitable, even if the whole universe is against you.
So what you need to do is try to ease into this fact and do your best to let go. Everything happens for a reason, and it is usually because you have something much better coming your way. If you never reunite, then it is for the best. Just let it be and let fate, the universe, and all the forces of nature, do their thing.
Try to fill your time up and become productive. Work on developing yourself mentally, physically, and intuitively. Work on the skills that you have, and learn new ones. Immerse yourself in fun activities, and fully commit to all the duties that you have.
If you have some free time on your hands, use it to help others, give back to the community, or even do some freelance on the side. Try to benefit fully from all the time you have, and never give yourself the chance to think about your ex. As time passes by, you will start to see all things you are capable of, and you will realize that you don’t need them to survive or be happy.
Getting over an ex can be very hard. It can feel impossible, especially when you still love them and know that you would have done anything for them. It can be very easy to blame yourself for anything that has ever gone wrong or start regretting, not trying harder. This is why you need to make sure that you did everything you can to make things work out between you two before actually moving on. When moving on, you need to use this time to become a better version of yourself, for yourself. You need to accept that everything is the way that it is for a reason.
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