By Jack Botsford
Every person longs for a fulfilling and happy relationship. Many relationships end prematurely due to differences between couples. Most of these situations leading up to break up can be avoided. Men are usually the primary cause of most failed relationships because they find it difficult to understand women. Luckily, any relationship can sail smoothly when couples get the right insights.
The following things are the major drawbacks that men should avoid when dating to ensure they have a successful relationship:
Not Giving Her the Needed Attention
As we all know, women like to be pampered and attended to. This is unlike men who do not need much attention to feel appreciated. Not returning that missed call or answering that message could land you in trouble. Women are naturally possessive and ignoring them would mean that your attention is divided and you are not fully devoted to them. Give her as much attention as possible and always let her know when you cannot be around.
Comparing Her With Others
This is the worst thing any man can do to his partner. Some women tend to have self-esteem issues and even a joke could adversely affect her. Always compliment her and help her become a better version of herself without hurting her feelings. An example is helping a woman you met on Happy Matches website to lose those extra pounds instead of commenting on how bad she looks or comparing her with others you have met before. This also means accepting that she is unique in her own way and learning to live with the shortcomings that you know can never change.
Making All Decisions Alone
Most people are brought up in societies that give men all the power to make decisions. This is a setback in most relationships because women like to be heard too. Listening to her strengthens the relationship and she also feels responsible for its growth. Discussing any issue that affects both of you and coming to a consensus ensures that the relationship lasts.
Losing Temper Easily
Most men who lose their temper easily tend to be abusive too. Not all women want to be in an abusive relationship or marriage. Learn to contain your anger and address issues maturely. Every couple fights, but how you handle the situation is what determines its future existence. Learn to be sorry when in the wrong and forgive when wronged.
Not Being Faithful
You should always commit yourself to the relationship by not cheating on your partner. Making this mistake results in a bitter breakup and heartbreak. Be loyal to your partner and avoid compromising situations that could lead to being unfaithful.
Being Unproductive and Undependable
A man who has his life together and knows what he wants has a great relationship. This does not mean that women are gold diggers. All they need is the assurance of a responsible partner. However, a man who is unproductive and undependable will only have problems with any woman they try to date.
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